The magic of neuroplasticity – why childhood wounds can be healed

I spend a great deal of time teaching my clients about aspects of psychology that relate to them and their problems. In the early stages of therapy especially, there is a lot of psychoeducation – explaining about things like temperament, schemas and modes, the schema therapy model and how it will be able to help them, how their family dynamics impacted them as a child, what ‘core needs’ were not met in childhood, and so on.

Of course, during this pyschoeducation process we should always make things as clear and simple as possible. I remember attending a workshops with renowned cognitive therapist Helen Kennerley, who said, ‘As a cognitive therapist, things should be very complicated in your mind, but very simple for the client.’ Meaning, as therapists we have to hold a great deal of complexity in our minds – one or more therapy models, all the key details of our client’s history and our work together, what is occurring in the room at that moment, what we will do or say next – but what we tell the client should be, as far as possible, simple and jargon-free.

One of the key concepts I always explain to my schema therapy clients is ‘neuroplasticity’ (I know, I have broken my no-jargon rule already! But it’s an important term). That’s because I spend a great deal of time exploring their family history, all the upsetting or traumatic stuff that happened to them to create their painful schemas and maladaptive modes, how these psychological constructs work and affect them day to day... Honestly, after a while it all feels a bit hopeless and depressing, which is why I love neuroplasticity.

The ever-changing brain

I explain that psychologists used to think that our brains grew rapidly in the third trimester of pregnancy and first year of life (which is when the brain does grow at an astronomical rate), then throughout childhood and into adolescence; then, basically, you were done – that was your brain formed for life. But then they realised that was completely wrong! Neuroplasticity means that we have a plastic, or clay-like brain, which is being moulded and changed every single day of our lives.

I often tell them that, if they learned to tango aged 87, their brain would have to grow new ‘tango neurons’ to store that information. They would literally be growing new brain tissue and shaping their brain, even in their eighties. So none of the impact of traumatic stuff that has happened to them, including the schemas that then formed, is fixed or set in any way. It’s not easy to change, of course, but it it is eminently doable.

The power of hope

Now we have hope – and hope is like gold dust in therapy. Clients start to believe they can change; that all this weird schema therapy stuff might just help them, even if other therapies haven’t; that maybe they don’t have to be cyclically depressed for the next 50 years, or overwhelmingly anxious every time they leave the house. And we both end the session feeling that little bit happier and more hopeful!

If you would like to learn more about neuroplasticity and the changing brain, come along to one of my Schema Therapy Skills workshops, including the upcoming ones below. I hope to see you there!

Warm wishes,



In schema therapy, there is a strong emphasis on using experiential techniques such as imagery rescripting and chair work, which are seen as more effective and transformative than just talking about problems from the client’s past and present. This one-day workshop will teach you how imagery techniques can help rescript even the most traumatic experiences from your client’s childhood, such as incidences of abuse or neglect.

Cost: £180 including refreshments, all training materials and certificate of attendance confirming 6 CPD hours

Next date: 31st May 2019

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This one-day course will explain the concept of ‘modes’, which are different aspects of our personality that are activated in different situations and by particular triggers. In addition to a brief overview of the theory of schema therapy and schemas/modes, you will learn how to assess and formulate your clients’ modes, as well as specific techniques such as imagery and chair work for working with key modes.

Cost: £180 including refreshments, all training materials and certificate of attendance confirming 6 CPD hours

Next date: 21st June 2019

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